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Helping children deal with two homes

If you are separating and divorcing from your spouse, your child may be learning to live in multiple places for the first time. The separation or divorce is likely confusing and troubling for your child or children, so you are probably doing everything in your power to ease the emotional strain and make the major life transition as stress-free as possible. Helping your child or children feel comfortable in both environments is one important method of doing so, so here are some helpful tips to get you started.

Let your child make the new space his or her own

The more your child feels like he or she had a say in designing and setting up the new room, the more likely the child will want to spend time there. Letting children pick out the color of the walls, a new bed or furniture, some new wall art and light fixtures or any number of other personal touches will help the new space feel comfortable and inviting.

Make sure your child is well-equipped at both homes

Kids, like most adults, do not want to feel like they are living in hotels. To minimize this feeling, make sure your child has all the essentials, from toiletries and toothbrushes to pajamas and a favorite stuffed animal, easily available at both homes. This is sure to help minimize the inevitable back-and-forth you will find yourself doing when one critical item is forgotten at your ex-partner's home.

Placing pictures of your ex-partner in the new room

Chances are, you probably do not want to see the face of your ex grinning back at you every time you enter your son or daughter's personal space. It is, however, your child's personal space, and if you can bring yourself to make this type of self-sacrifice, it will more than likely pay off in the long run. Not only may the simple presence of a picture of the other parent help place your child at ease, but its presence helps demonstrate that you value your child's happiness above any potential bitterness you may harbor against your ex.

These are just a few of the steps you can take to help ease the emotional strain your divorce or separation may have on your child. If you have additional questions about transitioning your children from one home to two, or otherwise helping them deal with changes within the family, you may want to get in touch with an attorney.

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