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Optional custody arrangements for the holidays

Deciding what to do when it comes to the holiday season can be difficult for everyone, but especially for those going through a divorce. A time meant to be filled with joy and happiness can often be tainted with sadness as parents and children learn to find a new normal and adjust time-honored traditions. One of the most important things to remember during a divorce is that planning ahead can eliminate much of the stress in an already tense situation. Consult with an attorney or seek the help of a mediator to assist you and your ex as you plan how to spend the holiday season. Whether you are celebrating Christmas, Hanukkah or Kwanzaa, there are several different ways to divide the days.

Half-day split

Many families want to be together on every holiday, in which case a half-day split can work. If you are celebrating Christmas, you can have the kids for Christmas morning while your ex-spouse takes them to a family party in the afternoon or vice versa. If you want to split Christmas Eve, consider having the children spend the evening of the 24th at one parent's house and sleep over to share Christmas morning as well, then head to the other house for the rest of the day. This arrangement allows both parents to celebrate each holiday with their children.

Full-day split

Some parents choose to have less back-and-forth travel by arranging to have the children for a full 24 hours. For Christmas, this could mean the 24th at one house and the 25th at the other. Kwanzaa and Hanukkah are easy to split into full days with each parent, just be sure you talk about which days you would most like to have.

Multi-day split

Some families are finding that trading off certain holidays each year can give kids more stability and involves less travel exhaustion. CNN reports that it might not be a bad custody arrangement for the parents, either. One father explained that he and his wife spent a week surrounding Christmas with the kids each year. The years he didn't have his children were spent traveling with his parents. This can allow one parent to enjoy the entire holiday with the kids one year, then spend the next enjoying some relaxing time alone or with friends.

Whichever arrangement you choose, be sure it is the best option for you, your ex and your children. An experienced attorney can help you both discuss the pros and cons of each and come up with a suitable plan that allows your family to continue making memories for years to come.

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